Most of the people, find it very easy getting off alcohol and other drugs and it's not the hardest part for them to overcome an addiction.
It is the job of staying away from alcohol or the drugs which are the most difficult part. You have to face the pain that you've been fleeing which is one of the many reasons that may occur due to this. This pain may come in various forms such as a past trauma or having to live with a condition that has made you feel unwanted. None of these problems are small even on your best day but dealing with them in addition to treating an addiction can make life a lot more difficult. You may not know any other way to deal with life, never mind how to deal with traumatic experiences once a pattern of using ahs been established regardless of the reasons why you originally started to use alcohol or drugs. You could end up thinking that there is no option to dealing with such issues and coping strategies like self care plans and problem solving techniques will not work.
There are a lot of painful feelings that may also come up the moment you stop using drugs or alcohol and this can be particularly worse if you had been using for a long time. This can appear significantly overwhelming for you, (and your loved ones) especially if you don't know what to do or what is happening, weren't prepared for it, or you think that sobriety is always like this. This is why many people end up going back to drugs and alcohol even when they day the best intention. Seeking help is for the best if you too have experienced some of these things. Work to establish ways through which you can slowly release feelings that are pent up so that you can manage them more easily or so as to avoid feeling overpowered.
The withdrawal causes others to slump into a deep depression. You too might experience withdrawal if alcohol or drugs were boosting you.
Since you likely expected that life would become greater, this can not only feel forceful, but also demoralising. Well, don't give up. You can rest assured that the feeling will give up by itself.
At this point what is important to you is the right information about how the process works along with finding and keeping hope alive in you. Hearing about how others have turned around and how they have managed to do it can also be helpful in this regard. Maybe not right now, but surely very soon, you will have something to be pleased about and you will have a desire to know what else can happen. You should understand that some things that can in future help you get your life back on track, like enhanced self-confidence, self-love and self-respect, are just some of the presumable benefits.
Every individual is different and a number of people who are trying to recover from alcohol or drugs will not respond similarly to the same therapeutic approach even though there are some approaches that often prove helpful.
A very practical and realistic approach to coping is the necessity for most of the people in the beginning.
This indicates that you should be finding practical methods to:
Taking a realistic approach helps you encourage the honesty which is an essential element of recovery. By being realistic you are making an effort to look at what you can do and not what sounds like a good idea. You can always set a high bar for yourself but do not set yourself up for failure. You need to avoid making plans or decisions that are impossible and that will make you feel embarrassed if you can't accomplish them or even adhere to lying. A realistic approach may be about progressively bringing down your drug and alcohol consumption while resolving some past issues before stopping. It could also mean just quitting. The path you need to choose is the one that will work best for you.
It may take a longer time and more therapy for you to be able to go without alcohol or drugs for the long term.
This could mean facing experiences of abuse that is of physical, physical or ritual nature; going through a major loss, abandonment in childhood, serious sickness or death, being brought up in a dysfunctional family, shame or confusion about sexual orientation etc. Some people may find that this also includes facing their present living situation such as an abusive or an absent partner.
Professional help of a psychotherapist (individually or in a group) may also be required for this kind of issues as it's not easy to face them. Some people will not need this additional help to stay clean but others will. A majority of people discover that their addiction is linked to the reason why they got into drugs and alcohol. The need to rely on drugs or alcohol might be decreased by dealing with these problems.
Quitting alcohol or drugs is not easy and can be painful and is similar to dealing with painful issues, which usually hurt in the beginning before they get better. Firstly, you may get the feeling that you are getting worse. However, the long-term gains such as feeling good about yourselves, enjoying life fully, feeling alive and free and happy is all worth the hard work.
It might be alluring to think that you can deal with your substance abuse just one way. The idea that there is a single solution that will work for anyone is tantalizing. But life and people are rarely that simple. I have looked at many people using different methods that worked for them to overcome substance abuse (and others that significantly decreased their intake). Ultimately, you must be prepared to trust your intuition, which will be deep inside of you. Try the method that you feel will work. Sobriety in the long term may start with that single step.