The Brief History Of Al-Anon
If there is a person that you know who is an alcoholic and needs help, Al-Anon is one of the most effective groups of helping the achieve that. The aim of these groups is to be recuperative and curative.
Al-Anon was founded in 1951 as an organization for providing support to friends and relatives of drunkards. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is the first alcoholic support group that was started by the husband of Lois Wilson who went on to later start her own support group, Al-Anon. She herself faced the challenge of supporting a convalescent alcoholic, so, she created an organization aimed at people with the same problem. Al-Anon is an organization self-supported through member donations. The family of the addicts usually get tips on how they can help their loved ones and live comfortably with them.
These groups help their members know there are others like them.
Alcoholism Being A Family Illness
Al-Anon considers the problem of alcoholism as a family illness because of the negative impact it has both on the alcoholic and the people surrounding them. The recovery process is a joint effort and the family members and other people close to the addict must be involved.
Some family members blame themselves for their loved one's drinking or may not realise why recovery is their loved one's primary concern. The Al-Anon group meetings help bring these issues to light and teach members how to deal with alcoholism as it affects the whole family.
Alateen Is Al-Anon For Teenagers
Besides, Al-Anon has a group named Alateen organized specially for young people whose family member suffers from alcoholism.
During the Al-teen meetings, the youth meet with their peers and share experiences and support each other at their level.
The Advantages Of Al-Anon Group
Al-Anon members benefit by being introduced to other people and families who have suffered from alcoholism. Despite every individual being different Al-Anon commonly had interrelated experiences within their struggles. Al-Anon provides a key benefit and that is to help people finding others who have had similar experiences to talk about. These meetings are widespread all over the country. Phone us on 0800 246 1509 , and we'll help you find the one near you.
What You Can Expect From A Meeting
If you know someone who is an alcoholic, then Al-Anon is the best place for you. Al-Anon can assist you if you are anxious about someone's drinking habit or if their lifestyle affects you personally.
Some of the attendees are reluctant to go to their first meeting because they do not know what to expect. Here are some things to remember when considering whether to attend a meeting:
- Al-Anon is anonymous meaning you do not identify yourself in the meeting
- All the members of this group have had an encounter with an alcoholic in their lives
- You are not forced to talk or discuss your issues though it is encouraged
- Different Types Of Meetings Are Held For Everyone
- Some could be more productive for you than the others.
- Al-Anon is by no means a religious organization
- The meetings are concentrating on the 12-step program which has been designed by Al-Anon
Going to the meeting means that you accept the fact that there are matters discussed that will be of help to you or not. The shared stories, of experiences, hardships, and victories encourages members to know how to handle their experiences.
Al-Anon And The Twelve Steps
Usually, meetings start with someone reading from the 12 step program. These twelve steps are an abridged, almost verbatim, quote from the same-name program of Alcoholics Anonymous. There is a person to hold your hand as you go through the different stages of help. These steps are the following:
- We admitted we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable.
- The members learn how to accept alcohol addiction as an illness, which they cannot control if somebody else suffers from it.
- Accepted that a Power greater than ourselves could bring back our mental health.
- members also learn they are driving themselves crazy by trying to change or control another person.
- They understand to accept that they can revert to sanity, after acknowledging they are powerless.
- Made a resolution to turn our lives and our will over to the care of God in a way we perceived Him.
- Learning to let go is a primary step in the program and acceptance.
- Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
- Identifying that your life is being affected by alcoholism is one way of getting the best help.
- The members make a list of things they did or said to themselves and their loved ones that are painful or harmful.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to others human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
- Permitting them to dig into each issue, this is an examination of every thing in the members moral inventory.
- Got fully ready to have God eliminate all the flaws of character.
- This is a very important step, as it is the complete acceptance of the process of recovery supported by a Higher Power.
- calmly begged Him to remove our drawbacks.
- When they reach This point, the member can realize the part they played by judging and trying to control their loved ones which could have driven them into more drinking.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed and be willing to make amends with them.
- Mostly, doing changes begins with yourself.
- Sometimes it not always your fault a person is addicted.
- They must learn to forgive and make it right for themselves.
- Made amends to such people directly where feasible, except for the cases when doing so is likely to hurt them or others.
- As soon as you are ready to make amends, the next step is actually to do it.
- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
- Going through the 12 steps is a process which will take time.
- There is also a possibility for relapse when trying to recover in the program.
- Step 10 identifies this is an ongoing process.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
- This step is a personal, spiritual one; it comprises acceptance and comfort in view of the great stress of recovery.
- Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in our affairs.
- The last step includes perception that the persons journey is not over yet.
- They are encouraged with support to use what they have learned to assist others.
Knowledge Of Higher Power
Members of Al-Anon believe there is a "higher power' greater than themselves even though the group is not affiliated with any religion. The term "higher power" is, however, open to interpretation according to the personal beliefs of individuals. Al-Anon is open to members of all religions and beliefs and accepts them with a commitment that no one will be forced to alter his or her belief.